About us News The art of getting over failure So, you failed. Now what? Depending on the person, the definition of failure is different. For most it can be the hardest time you go through. Mourning the loss of time, effort and a hit to your confidence. However, failure is an important step to success. Failure should be seen in the same way as a mistake. We all make them and there’s always something to learn from them. Here are our top five tips to overcoming failure. 1. Acceptance. There is nothing wrong or unhealthy about spending some time grieving about failed goals and expectations. If you spend more time being open and honest with the let-down, then it’s unlikely to pop back up and cause the issues later down the line. Tip: Give it two days, feel sorry for yourself. Talk with someone, let out the frustration and disappointment. Mourn the loss of this failure, feel bad about it. After that, get up and get back to work. Ultimately don’t let it become part of your identity. 2. Learn from the situation. As previously stated, failure is just a mistake. It will feel a lot harder to deal with since more effort and time was put in, but if you think of it as a stepping stone, you will hopefully recover quicker. Tip: Look back at what happened with a new mind-set. Think about the changes and improvements that could have been made. Was the issue a lack of planning or being unrealistic? Or were there external factors you couldn’t control. Whatever the outcomes, write them down and learn from them. Refer to this list the next time you find yourself in similar situation. 3. Look at your successes. We always start to think more negatively once failure happens: ‘It NEVER works for me, I ALWAYS fail’. Do not project negative thoughts into your life. Bring positivity back by looking back at all the amazing, fun and life-changing things you have done. Tip: Write down all the successes you’ve had in the last year. There will be more then you realise. As you write them down, take note of the things that went well and try applying them to your next project. 4. Look at other failures. The most successful people in this world have failed at some point in their lives. Every singer has lost a singing competition and most businessmen have lost money or even gone bankrupt. There’s a comeback for everyone. Tip: Find someone like yourself (same field, similar upbringing or someone you admire) and read up on their successes and failures. Learning from their mistakes might stop you from making some of your own. At the very least, it will make your feel better about yourself. Realising that even very successful people have gone through failures should takes some weight off your shoulders. 5. Get ready for the comeback. Whatever the next thing is, be productive and move on. The quicker you bounce back, the better. Not letting the negativity consume you will allow you to get to your success quicker. Tip: Start off with something small and fun just to get the excitement back into you, then build on it. Remember that a positive mind-set can make a huge difference. Realising that failure is a part of life will turn a negative situation into a positive learning experience. Remember that some things that seem so big today will seem so little in perspective in the future. Make a choice - will this failure be the turning point to greatness or the turning point to self- doubt? Your choice.